Selfish has always been labeled as a negative word, an undesirable quality and a sign of evilness.
Health always has been considered and restricted to proper physiological functionalities and the well-being of our general physical state.
Both are insufficiently understood half-truths. There can be a little positive variation and addition to them. Real definition and proper understanding were submerged with superficial explanations of these terms.
Being a little selfish sometimes is not a bad thing to exercise. And, health encompasses more than just the proper functioning of your body and extends to one’s mind, including thoughts and feelings that have profound effects all through your body.
Let us now focus on how to be this Positive and Healthy version of Selfishness to improve our holistic health.
Being Selfish for Self-Improvement
A happy Person Brings Joy to Others
A happy person makes others happy. If you are not happy you cannot help keeping your loved ones and your immediate surroundings in a positive state.
Suppose you are having repercussions from a suppressed emotion or over some frustrations. Will you feel like having a good time with your kids and spouse or attending a party and bringing joy to others? You cannot even give a real smile during that situation, can you? If you are a trained actress then you might, perhaps. But, the general public is also trained nowadays in differentiating a fake smile from a real one unless they are absolutely naive.
How being selfish can help here?
– Find the root cause of the frustration or the repercussion.
-Address it and find the solution.
– Focus and take time to solve it.
– Avoid public engagement if not absolutely necessary.
– Create your own space and be there till you find the solution and solve it completely.
– Take a break from anything and everything only to return and resume in a revitalized state.
Prioritize Your Health While Taking Other’s Care
Not taking food properly and timely in the process of serving others will deteriorate your health, leaving you unfit for taking any responsibility for anyone in your family or your circle.
Be selfish by Ensuring
– You don’t eat less trying to overfill others’ plate
– You take all your significant meals on time daily, sidelining other tasks during that timeframe.
– You add all the essential healthy food items and good things on your plate as well while serving others.
– Don’t shy away from stepping forward to the family doctor and getting your routine medical checkup done as well while others in the family do it.
– Don’t hesitate to ask and make available any arrangements and facilities for you, exclusively, if you are convinced you need them to go on and be in a better position to take care of yourself and others.
– Take a break from anything and everything if you feel either your body or your mind, or maybe both, isn’t supporting you to go on in that situation or in that role. There is no pride in over-exhausting ourselves and burnout.
-Be selfish to pull back step aside and relax.
– Be selfish enough to say NO directly to the person if you ever feel you are being sweetly forced to offer more than you can give and leave you all dry up.
Be Selfish to Draw A Line with Takers
In our lives, we may have come across a few TAKERS who may be someone from our relatives, friends, family members, colleagues neighbours, etc. They are only interested in receiving and procuring things (materials and others) from you. Being a Giver is good but stop being one with greedy and shamefully opportunist takers.
Draw the line firmly and selfishly-
– Don’t let your resources and peacefulness dry out in keeping others’ boats afloat.
– Be alert against them without coming across as completely rude or cruel. Be tactful to reflect indifference in your conduct with them.
– Make yourself less accessible to them.
– Be selfish in protecting yourself from the evil clutches of horribly selfish parasites.
Be selfish in Claiming Your ‘Me Time’
Don’t lose yourself in serving your loved ones. Your loved ones are not hostile to you or a burden to you. You love them and I believe they also love you back. Nevertheless, you need to love yourself a little extra sometimes to be able to love your loved ones even more.
How to Do It?
– Allocate a timeframe for you daily where you do nothing but indulge in your favourites.
– Have a hobby of your own that you selfishly pursue and sincerely manage time for it.
– Keep a tiny social circle of your own that can give you comfort and help you unwind.
– If you have found no such friends don’t worry. Spent time with yourself, talk to yourself or think about nothing but yourself. -Pamper yourself. Yes, be selfish in thinking about pampering yourself as well just like the way you would do to your loving husband, darling kids and affectionate parents or just anyone in your life.
Why Such Selfishness is Necessary for Being Healthier?
– if you are not happy you cannot make others happy, repeatedly mentioned.
-If you are not physically healthy how will you do the day-to-day tasks in your life (at home or in the office)? Keeping your physical health by focusing on it selfishly is therefore important. Don’t Eat Less and also Don’t Eat Last.
– Mental state determines the overall well-being of an individual. Suppressed emotions and neglecting one’s desires cause repercussions that trigger negative thoughts, impacting our health.
– If you are not the Positive Selfish with horribly selfish people, who only know how to source things from others, you will end up feeling exhausted, damaged and used. It will slowly ruin your emotional state, mental peacefulness and also your necessary resources.
‘Me time’ gives an outlet to all such ongoing turmoils inside us. Plus, it helps us be on friendlier terms with ourselves making us more confident and happier. Again, remember, a happy person makes others happy.
So, My So Far Self-less Darlings
Know for sure that there is no greater achievement and pride in being completely selfless.
Being selfish sometimes only will help you create and maintain a positive Vibe around you and be capable to take your responsibilities in better ways.
You are looking after others and so many things in life. Wait.. take a break and love yourself a little more as you are the Doer & the Giver.
Listen, you now better be Healthier, Happier and also Smarter.
